I heard an old, very gay song yesterday and it got me to thinking about how we define masculinity, sexiness and what constitutes being a man in the gay community. I think a lot of people have messed up perceptions in this area. Too often people look at muscles, tans, tight stomaches and hairiness and think those things make someone masculine. They measure sexiness, others or their own, by the amount of dick or ass they can get. And real men are those that show little to no emotion or sensativity. BULLSHIT!
I do not uderstand why people don't realize that it is the sign of being a REAL MAN to be able to COMMIT to the person they love. Being able to exhibit self-restraint is the mature way to handle a relationship. A boy on the otherhand thinks only with his dick.
Being a slut is not attractive or sexy. Measuring your self-worth by how much of a 'ho you are capable of being is actually pathetic and sad, not attractive. If you have to prove to yourself how much of a man you are or that you still got it by being as unfaithful as you can, then you aren't a man... you are only a boy. Don't get me wrong, physical attraction is important, but why settle for people who are outwardly attractive but ugly as hell on the inside? What's on the inside is more important and it is what will last over time.
A man who is capabale of loving, respecting and valuing his partner and making them feel loved and wanted IS truly sexy. It is more sexy than any physical attribute and can't be made up for with a big dick, huge arms or an aggressive attitude.
A real man is capable of talking about his feelings and being honest. A real man doesn't run from conversations that make him uncomfortable. A real man faces up to his shortcomings and is able to talk about them and correct them.
It is shocking how many old boys there are and how few real men there are in the gay community. There are far more superficial guys pretending to be men than I would have thought there would be. But in the end, I guess those people end up with what they deserve... other superficial, immature boys who don't value them either. It may take a while to find, but I know what I want. Bring on the real men.
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