“They like to say there’s over 100 stars out tonight. No there’s not. There’s only four real stars. The rest are just popular people. Clint Eastwood is a star. That’s a star. … Tobey Maguire is just a boy in tights.”
This is the THIRD TIME I am typing this entry... grrr! Damn computer.
Well, another weekend is in the books and another snowy work week is upon us. This one involves some business travel, albeit less than originally planned.
Friday was a low-key laid back day. We did some shopping cruising at the local Home Homo Depot (which in the Bronx means beefy Latinos in work boots). We had to pick up some spackle, a curtain rod and some supplies to fix a broken tile in the bathroom. Then it was off to Yonkers to get some provisions from the Irish market and grab some grub at the Irish diner.
On Saturday, we had a lazy morning then headed into the city to run some errands, including a stop at our favorite discount liquor store. Then we headed over to the Big Gay Expo at the Javitz Center where the Gotham Knights rugby team had a booth to recruit people for our boot camp and Armory as well provide information to people with a general interest in rugby.
This was Nicky's first visit to a Big Gay Expo and we were both a little disappointed in the amount of tasty eye candy that was on hand. But we made up for it by tasting a bunch of free booze samples (beer, wine, rum and vodka). We even bought chocolate martini, apple martini and lemon drop mixers and both chocolate and lemon rimmers (hehehe... I said rimmers... hehehe) from Nantucket Off-Shore. They turned out to be quite delicious as we quickly put them to use this weekend.
Then on Saturday night we met him and a few other friends at Club Rare in the Meatpacking District for Habibi, which is a Middle Eastern gay/str8/bi/mixed party. It was a lot of fun and it was refreshing to go somewhere new and see different faces for a change. The music was pretty cool too! I did however run into a "friend" from the Bronx (a cute little Lebanese cub). Fortunately, it was a "friend" that I had already told Nicky about and one who had already chatted with a few times.
Sunday too was a lazy morning, but of course it was Oscar Day! Him and his boyfriend came over for drinks and snacks and to watch the show. We put the mixers and rimmers to good use and also experimented with some new frozen drinks and shots.
Speaking of Oscars... is it only me or did anyone else think the pre-show AND the award show itself sucked? The debacle that was E!'s pre-show sucked. I hate to say it but I missed Joan Rivers and her annoying daughter (TV Guide Channel?!?!... I don't even get that channel). I guess I am not the only one who feels this way either. Star's Nielsen ratings at the Grammys were 40% below what Joan Rivers' were the year before.
E! plugged its show by saying "Catch your favorite red carpet divas Star Jones Reynolds and hilarious Kathy Griffin..." HUH?!?! Diva?!?! Jones looked like the fat cow that she STILL is. She looked foolish with her four back tits hanging out of that backless tarp she had on. Jones is a terrible, pretentious, narcissistic bore. Hilarious?!?! Griffin was annoying and not funny at all. I cannot figure out what I hated more... her truly lame jokes or her fake and forced smile.
And the award show itself was a snore-fest. Chris Rock seemed totally disinterested, which given the comments he made leading up to the show is probably because he was. I normally like Chris Rock. Aside from his opening monologue, I thought he was boring. Maybe he was intentionally extra reserved boring because of all the pre-show hoopla. But I doubt we will see him hosting the show again anytime soon.
And what was up with the fucked up format changes? Who's idea was it to have all of the nominees on stage at once sometimes and other times handing out the awards in the aisles? STUPID!
I was however happy to see Million Dollar Baby win big. I thought it was a fabulous movie and I really do like Clint Eastwood. I feel a little bad for Martin Scorsese who is now 0-5 in his bid to win a Best Director award.
Alcohol has an amazing influence on people. Under the influence of booze, it is shocking what people will say and what you can learn. A few shots and they just open up, willing to share information about themselves and about others. If you happen to be sober enough to remember what they told you, you can come away from a night out drinking with a plethora of information about a whole bunch of people you know. Some of this information can be hysterical while some can actually be shocking, even disturbing. But then again, I guess it ends up being more disturbing than shocking.
I don't know if it is a NYC phenomenon or whether it is actually more global, but I tend to find the gay community to be a little on the critical side. It seems as though there is an awful lot of judgment being passed on others... whether it be their manner of dress, their taste in BFs, their jobs, their taste in music or film or even in their style of blogging. I mean, if you don't like how other people blog, just don't read it. But is it really necessary to dedicate an entire entry to what you don't like about other people's blogs?
There are all sorts of blogs out there. People keep them for a variety of reasons. There are those that seek to inform others about current events. There are blogs that are intended to keep friends, both real and virtual, up to date on the author's life experiences (I guess mine is a bit of that). There are also blogs that serve as a sort of type of therapy, allowing the author to blow off steam and talk things through for themselves (mine is also a bit of that). There are blogs dedicated to all sorts of topics (porn, hot men, fashion, film, music, sports, politics). Some of the issue oriented blogs are meant to beat a drum over and over again to make sure a certain point is made and that people get the message. And then there are those blogs that are merely pretentious and meant to allow the author to remind his or her readers how fabulous they are.. how smart, or artistic, or well traveled, or educated, or rich, or pretty, or socially well connected. Each blog serves a purpose either to the author or the reader, and if you like it then you read it. If you don't like it, you simply don't have to read it. But do you really have to judge it and critique it? I guess I just did that myself.
I had an awesome day yesterday. Nicky and I went to shop for some furniture for my apartment. We actually started with a tasty lunch at a local diner. Then, we checked out both the local Seaman's and Levitz. Levitz definitely had the nicer furniture. I ended up buying what I think is a nice coffee table and end table, that unfortunately won't be delivered until 3/11.
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I also think I found a living room suite that I want. It is a bit ornate but both Nicky and I both love it and it fits with the style of my apartment now and can easily fit it just about anywhere should I decide to move. Plus, it is super comfy. What do you think? It will require some further re-arranging of the living room to get it to fit, but that is part of the fun.
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We also stopped off at JC Penny's and Linens 'n Things to pick up some stuff for the kitchen and bathroom. After wrapping up our shopping we grabbed some KFC and headed for home to get out of the snow. We had dinner and then Nicky fixed us each a Cosmopolitan (how very gay) and we settled in to watch the news.
On the news, they showed The Gates in the snow. I commented at how pretty the looked and that I wish I could have seen them in the snow. So Nicky says "I will go with you if you want to see them." And I said, "When? Now?" And he replied "Yeah, why not?" So at 11:30 PM last night we were all bundled up and on the 4 train on the way to Central Park. Call it crazy. Call it romantic. Maybe it is a little of both, but I liked it.
Well, I know a lot of people don't like the gates... like him. However, I do like them. I like the fact that in spite of being very man-made, they seem so very natural. And last night it was amazing to see them in the snow and to see (and hear) how they interact with the elements.
We took a lot of pictures. They are not the greatest pics, mind you, but not bad for being taken in the dark, in a driving snow storm, with numb fingers and after midnight.
1. Pride in the Pulpit Phone Banking - Help us reach out to progressive clergy!
Thursday, February 24th - NYC
Please join us for an evening of phone banking for Pride in the Pulpit to help us reach out to progressive clergy. Anti-gay clergy are beginning to grow stronger here in NYC and we need all of the support on our side that we can get. Progressive clergy are out there; we just need your help to reach them and elevate their voices!
When: Thursday, February 24th from 6-8pm
Where: Empire State Pride Agenda office (16 West 22nd Street, NYC)
For more information, contact Chris Cormier at 212.627.0305, ext 116 or [email protected].
2. The GLBT Expo: Volunteer at the Pride Agenda booth!
Saturday, February 26th & Sunday, February 27th - NYC
Come on out and volunteer at the Pride Agenda booth at the GLBT Expo in New York City the last weekend of February!
When: February 26, 2005 11am - 7pm, February 27, 2005 12pm - 6pm
Where: Jacob Javits Convention Center, 38th St. & 11th Ave., NYC
Volunteer Shifts: We need at least 3-4 volunteers for each shift. You are more than welcome to volunteer for more than one shift.
The Expo is a great opportunity to make and strengthen our connections with the LGBT community. At last November's Gay Life Expo, Pride Agenda volunteers collected over 1200 Pledge of Resistance Cards, which help us identify and mobilize New Yorkers in defense of civil marriage for same-sex couples. We intend to build upon that success and will organize a similar action for the upcoming GLBT Expo.
Entrance to the Expo is free for every volunteer, and we will be giving a prize to the volunteer that collects the most Pledge of Resistance cards for each day! If you would like to volunteer at the Expo, please contact Julie Guerrero at [email protected] or 212.627.0305, ext 115.
3. Pride in the Pulpit Multi-faith Roundtable in Rochester
Monday, February 28th - Rochester
Join us in Rochester on Monday, February 28th for a Pride in the Pulpit Multi-faith Roundtable. Through Pride in the Pulpit, we are building a network of leaders of faith who are willing to advocate for LGBT people and our families. To learn more about this dynamic program, visit www.prideagenda.org/pulpit.
We will be bringing together local leaders of faith to discuss how to work effectively as a network of LGBT-supportive leaders of faith to advocate for LGBT New Yorkers and our families.
Current community co-sponsors are: Community Christian Church, Community Christian Fellowship of Rochester, Colgate Rochester Crozer Divinity School (CRCDS) Women and Gender Studies Program, CRCDS Office of Student Life, CRCDS Rainbow Connections, Dignity-Integrity Rochester, First Congregational United Church of Christ of Niagara Falls, First Unitarian Church of Rochester, First Universalist Church of Rochester, Gay Alliance of Genesee Valley, Interfaith Advocates, Justice Ministry of Downtown United Presbyterian Church, Lake Avenue Baptist Church, MOCHA Project, Inc., Open Arms Metropolitan Community Church, PFLAG Oswego County, Plymouth Spiritualist Church, Rochester Religious Coalition for Equal Marriage, Spiritus Christi Rainbow Bridge, St Luke and St Simon Cyrene Episcopal Church, St. Mark's Episcopal Church of Penn Yan, Third Presbyterian Church More Light Committee, Welcoming Presbyterians of Genesee Valley
If you would like to learn more about the roundtable or to confirm your attendance, please contact Chris Cormier at 212.627.0305, ext 116 or [email protected].
4. Town Hall meeting on Albany County's "Local Law B"- Come out to support protection from transgender discrimination!
Thursday, March 10th - Albany
Town Hall meeting on Albany County's "Local Law B"- Protect transgender individuals, domestic violence victims, and active duty military service members by amending Albany County Human Rights Ordinance!
Thursday March 10 - Albany
Please join Pride Agenda and a diverse coalition of organizations and community members for a town hall meeting on "Local Law B" at the First Unitarian Universalist Society of Albany. Find out why this ordinance is important, what the current status of the bill is, and how you can get involved in passing this important legislation!!
When: Thursday, March 10th 7pm to 9pm
Where: First Unitarian Universalist Society of Albany (405 Washington Avenue)
This bill would protect transgender individuals, domestic violence victims, and active duty military service members by amending Albany County Human Rights Ordinance. Opponents of this bill have already started mobilizing and we need as much community support as possible. For more information, please contact Nora Yates at 518.472.3330 or [email protected].
5. Pride in the Pulpit Multi-faith Roundtable in Albany
Monday, March 14th - Albany
Join us in Albany on Monday, March 14th for a Pride in the Pulpit Multi-faith Roundtable. Through Pride in the Pulpit, we are building a network of leaders of faith who are willing to advocate for LGBT people and our families. To learn more about this dynamic program, visit www.prideagenda.org/pulpit.
When: March 14, 2005 9am - 3pm
Where: First Unitarian Universalist Society of Albany, 405 Washington Ave., Albany
We invite you to join us for our Multi-Faith Roundtable to learn more about Pride in the Pulpit and to discuss how leaders of faith can strengthen faith-based advocacy in the Capital District. We will also be offering workshops to help you in your efforts to create open and affirming environments for LGBT people of faith. And, of course, we also want this to be an opportunity for you to network with each other and get support for the work you are doing.
Current community co-sponsors are: B'nai Shalom, Canaan Congregational Church, The Capital District Gay and Lesbian Community Council, First Unitarian Universalist Society of Albany, First United Methodist Church of Schenectady, First United Presbyterian of Troy, Holy Trinity National Catholic Church, In Our Own Voices, Interfaith Impact of New York State, Metropolitan Community Church of the Hudson Valley, Slingerlands Community United Methodist Church
6. LGBT Equality & Justice Day in Albany: Save the date!
Tuesday, May 24th - Albany
Join 500 lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) New Yorkers and our allies in Albany on Tuesday, May 24th, 2005 to fight for LGBT equality and justice! Empire State Pride Agenda will mobilize advocates, clergy, community leaders, and constituents to share with legislators our lives, our stories, and the issues that impact LGBT New Yorkers and our families.
From Buffalo to Montauk, we will gather together for our annual day of advocacy and WE WANT YOU TO BE THERE! Stay tuned for more information in early spring.